Category: Dating and Relationships
Today I had sweet devious revenge on my stalker, by visiting his professor,the stalker is doing a medical science degree..
I explained his student's obsessive behaviour and he, surprised me, by admitting to having concerns about the guy's recent behaviour..apparently he's been far from his usual self..
so the Professor assured me that action would be taken and he would keep me informed...
this might intail either his immediate removal from the course,a severe reprimand and threatened dismissal, or a report of his carry on is handed over to the police....
..the last thing we wanted was to destroy his future, but he had left me and his fiance, with no alternative..
um, forgive me for bursting your bubble here but isn't that a bit juvanile? telling his teachers on him is something that we might do if we were in school but ... you're adults? if the stalking was unnerving you that much why didn't you just go to the police
Have to agree with SB here, it sound a bit chidlish to me ... and judging by your posts n the boards I really got the feeling you, or at least a part of you, rather enjoyes the attention, it's flattering, in a way, as well as being disturbing. I can relate to that, although I never had something to the degree you describe.
But, how actively have you really been trying to get rid of it, it seems you have not talked to him really about it, have you talked to your gf about it, have you made it clear you don't feel the same way, you even said that a part of you felt the same way he did to begin with .. how much of a mixed message is he getting .. just some thoughts.
cheers
-B
enjoy it!? christ! I revel in the harrassment and ok we could have gone to the police..however they are powerless to act until he inflicts physical harm on me,even then I would need proof in the form of a reliable witness and no one wants to get involved in violence in this city, for the fear of being stabbed ect.......so I thought of this in a moment of desperation.........
..let me ask what would you do hmm when the police would say..."we can only advise you not to go out alone and change your phone number ect, but unless he's violent we can't really confront him"
Well my advice to you would have been ... just ignore it! unless you had reason to believe he was going to do you physical harm, just treat him like the nuisance he obviously is! Stalkers get off on the attention they receive from the person they are stalking, and if they don't receive that attention, especially in the instance of someone who is, as a rule, not known to be a violent person, they give up and move on. As for reporting him to the college professor I fear that that might have just been a useless shot. I sincerely doubt the college would be able to do anything about it, as you have already stated, the man has not committed a criminal act as yet, and therefore it is not up to the college to get involved. What he has done he has done outside of college time and it is therefore not their problem.
Oh and, whilst I realize this incident may have caused you some stress, you may want to remember that it is insignificant when we look at all the problems around the world - the hundreds of people killed in a train crash in sri lanka .. the famine in sudan - the worrying aids crisis in South Africa ...
Ignore it! Eh I seem to remember hearing the same advice in school where I was constantly harrassed by a mindless ned, who had threatened me on more than 1 occasion, that scenario ended in violence but I had expected as much, as he knew no better...
..of course he was at least brave enough to face me this eejit has ensured the effect is subconscious,no matter how much I ignore him he persists....
and did he threaten you? and if so what with?
I'm not even going to bother as the answert is clear enough
that's a no then. you obviously felt threatened by this man, and yet only last week you were pointing out that you were thinking about him when you held your gf in your arms ... I think that in all reality, the only thing he is threatening, is your relationship
The scenario I depicted was entirely fictional why are you being so unreasonable hmm? is this far too familiar....
..yet again your wrong the only relationship he's threatening is own and in the process,he's broken the heart of a wonderful woman, who is good friend of ours...
Wait, the whole scenario is entirely fictional? I'm confused now.
Oh so I take it Artif knows everything then? and I mean everything? or when you say the whole senario was fictional does that mean the whole senario and you just made it up to see what response you'd get?
no! not the stalking why the hell are you cross examining me hmm and why are you being so bitchy...another thing my partner's name is Ardeth..A.r.d.e.t.h.
...and she does know she began to realise something was going on so i filled her in....the scenario where I described holding your lover and thinking of someone else, came about when i was discussing infidelity with another poster..
I said how would you feel if your lover was holding you and saying i love you, while thinking of another woman is that clear now hmm?.....
If you go to the post would you tell her..you will see what I'm talking about and dont come back with the intention of twisting every word I said ..
ok wrong post its in the 1st one {why do we want what we cant have}
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the discussion is with Witchcraft and its quite far down on the page, if that doesn't satisfy your lawyer ambitions then I don't see what else I can do...
Wow you're really enjoying this aren't you, Goblin old lad? I must say that reading about your latest bit of jackonapery is tremendously entertaining! Okay, first thing's first: I thoughht that a few weeks ago you fancied this chap like anything! Now I hear that you are being stalked by him? Well you might want to know that under section 4 et seq. of the Protection From Harassment Act 1997, if there has been threatening or alarmning conduct on at least two occasions you can have this chap hauled before the Lord Ordinary on an interdict or before the equivalent of the magistrates in Scotland. But before we get to thatt stage, let's ask ourselves about the reality of this scenario: on the one hand, you say this is a fictional scenario, but for a fictional scenario, you appear to have done an awful lot about it! Reporting him to his professors? Do you really think they'd do anything without proof? Not with a serious allegation like that, they wouldn't. So the upshot is that you may as well have gone to the police after all, if you really felt that threatened. do you want to know what I think? Hell hath no fury like a Goblin scorned, that's what I think.
Its NOT fecking well fictional as I have already explained! and thankyou for the legal advice, I'm eh on the verge of doing just that
..and no i'm feckin well not enjoying the harrassment its childish deliberate and pathetic..
..Lawlord the Scottish police will visit him but if he deny's the accusations,there is nothing they can do but accept his bullshit..it could continue on like this for weeks...its NOT FECKING FICTIONAL YOU ARE TWISTING THE WHOLE BLOODY THING FOR YOUR BENEFIT AND I WOULD LIKE TO KNOW WHY..
Goblin what on earth do I have to gain from "twisting" in inverted commas, the events? How could I possibly benefit from it? granted, this topic does read a little like a bottom of the range thriller from time to time, so if I were planning to publish and sell it it would most certainly be in my interests to prolong it, but I have no such intentions. So how could I possibly benefit even if, which is denied, I were twisting the events? The only one who benefits old lad is you, if nothing else because I know you like to see the post counter under topics you create soar into double, nay, tripple figures. My advice Goblin is simply to get on and do something about it instead of spending your time telling the world and his wife about it in public fora.
you have inferred several times that I'm lying why? for your own twisted pleasure perhaps...I respect you as a person and I feel disappointed that you have to fall to this level to amuse yourself...
Goblin I get no pleasure from drawing inferences I can assure you. But you have to admit that this is an incredible story, almost as incredible as your references to coffins and vampires, not to mention flying dragons, in topics of yore.
So, hmm, to sum up the facts, easy to get factual about this stuff ...
You fancied this guy for some time. Did you tell him that? Did he have a reason to believe that you did?
And now he is harrassing you, what particular harrassing events are we talking, if phone calls, can you have your hone company trace them or do you have caller ID, if something else , how threatening has it really been.
Did you confront im and tell him you did not fancy him any more, did you even try to talk to him at all?
(yes, these might be answered somewhere else but I'm not really interested enough to go look, only slightly entertained by the story and wanting to get things to match up here)
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cheers
-B
Goblin, you are lying....I mean any professor in an educational establishment wouldn't even let you through the door let alone listen to your crazed ramblings about a stalker. And neither would he/she ever agree to throw someone off a course without absolute proof that the person had done wrong or broken the law. And neither would he/she discuss any concerns about said person's recent behaviour with a complete stranger who had just walked through the door. Your story above is patently untrue and makes no sense at all so why don't you just fess up and admit to it eh?
ohh please well wildebrew if your not interested enough to go and look that infers a certain ammount of ignorance and that being the case would you even listen to my side of the story,1st you give me good advice then you join in the throng yelling LIAR! how feckin christian of you ...
but for the sake of bloody argument or false accusations I will answer..1....Yes I told him how i felt as he was beginging to guess anyway..
2....I have had repeated calls all traced to his address, followed in town down the street by him in the car...he turns up where I am and only leaves when I do,he is under the impression that i am there for the taking...
3..its bloody frightening and unsettling he's using my disability against me and definately to his benefit...
4...yes I confronted him as I have already mentioned I broke off our friendship weeks ago,He was not happy in the least and I felt he saw the refusal as some kind of challenge,he had to overcome...
....your entertained!? hmm then you need to grow up and quick..
*sigh* I thought you hated Christians and Christian principles and wanted us to do like Manson, call each other up and threaten rapes etc, funny thing he wasn't put in prison but, oh boy, am I getting off topic.
I oddly enough did not accuse you of lying, I only wondeered if you had blown the situation out of proportion. If all of this is true (and I'm actually not saying it isn't, I have no reason to believe either way) well I'd talk to his fance about it at this point, composing songs for the wedding though does not seem frightening but the other stuff is interesting. Can't say he's really using your disability against you, can't see how that works exactly but, well bring the telephone record or whatever to his fiance, sit her down and explain what's going on, she's at the point where she needs to know, if you want my advice that is.
-B
THEN CALL THE BLOODY POLICE AND HAVE DONE WITH IT!!!!!!!!!!!!
ok, well if I remember rightly from previous topics regarding this issue, the fiance is already aware of the situation as it in fact was her who approached goblin I believe? so, if she's aware then it's up to her to deal with her relationship as she sees fit. As for this guy following you down the street goblin, well you're blind so you needn't be aware of it. just tell those whosee him to not tell you and you're oblivious ... As for my desires to become a lawyer ... well the money and the status would be nice, but can't see me doing all that studying thanks. Goblin you are very quick to jump on other users when they post things that you don't agree with. telling people to think about the problems of the world when they're having a bad day, dissing them for having opinions .. but if someone dares to question you on your own posts you jump on the offensive. you need to start to learn to practice what you preach sunshine, because at the moment the way you are acting is a double standard.
as for how to deal with your stalker, well most phone companies have a mlicious calls department, speak to them and tell them you're having calls from this guy - it might be possible for them to bar calls from his number to your phone.
and in the meantime, just ignore all the attention. after all, these are public message boards and you never know who might be reading them - even your stalker for all you know!
I do realize that stalking potentially can be a frightening experience - those who know me well will know that recently I began receiving silent phone calls to my mobile phone. and yes, it did unnerve me somewhat. however I just put it down to being some idiot who must have had nothing better to do with his time. the thought that someone could have that kind of infatuation with me was something I didn't wish to consider. But I certainly did not go round telling the world about it - I did speak to my mobile phone company who said to keep records of dates/times etc, but after a few days the calls ceased, no doubt my "stalker" found someone mor desireable.
Dear, dear the never ending self-centered adventures of our Drama Queen! What would our Goblin cook up next to stir out attention, emotions, and most of all sympathy? To be continued . . .
Star there really is no need to duplicate your posts, word for word, on multiple topics. If our goblin did that, imagine what it would be like! Thre would be no escape.
Wildebrew I would not suggest that everyone lives in Manson's world and why do you always refer to him, when I'm bein negative towards christians, you have fallen into the trap of treating Manson as a scapegoat..I thought you were more mature than that...
however... you did infer that I had lied and you derived pleasure from the stress you caused..doesn't that strike you as exceedingly childish and petty Wildebrew I have spoken with his fiance as you would have noticed, if you had bothered to check the other posts, instead of relying on your ignorant assumptions, but that's been so typicical of you lately...
Wildebrew I would not suggest that everyone lives in Manson's world and why do you always refer to him, when I'm bein negative towards christians, you have fallen into the trap of treating Manson as a scapegoat..I thought you were more mature than that...
however... you did infer that I had lied and you derived pleasure from the stress you caused..doesn't that strike you as exceedingly childish and petty Wildebrew I have spoken with his fiance as you would have noticed, if you had bothered to check the other posts, instead of relying on your ignorant assumptions, but that's been so typicical of you lately...
ok, well having read through this topic again, just to be sure now of exactly what was, nd was not said, nowhere can I see that wildebrew has even inferred that you might be lying, so who's twisting whose words now goblin. Its that double standard again isn't it. you read into the posts what you want to read into them, oh and, it's not a case of being bothered to trawl through all the vast amounts of posts to find out the facts, this is not a reference library, it's a discussion forum, and one person's problems are not that signifficant to the majority of the rest of the world.
so much hate and talking of bullshit you lied to me right Sugarbaby you must be the only person I have ever met who is capable of particpating on website while suffering from flu,most people are flat out in bed with barely enough energy to think, and yet there you were large as life!
... I really hoped for better than that pathetic effort...no doubt there is an ulterior motive behind your bitterness, but as you are so evasive and dishonest, I doubt I would believe a word of it....All I can say is your son's father had feckin lucky escape...
Watch what you say Gobby, remember E2E hmmmm? I'm sure the same could happen here given enough provocation... You always become very aggressive when people won't fall for the stories you spin don't you? Just give it up and tell the truth for once....oh and don't get so personal, people won't like it.
Now then Goblin it might be advisable that you withdraw the above statement as soon as you can and apologise. this is not a playground, you don't call people names just because your perception is that they are ganging up on you. And that's all it is, a perception. i ask myself this: why, if you did not want the matter to be discussed, did you put this matter on a discussion forum? It's not unreasonable that people call your story into question, given that your record for courting controversy and even flouting the standards of common courtesy is well-known largely due to your ubiquitous ravings. for all that, i consider that you have received some sensible advice in this discussion, and you received that yesterday. Accordingly, this topic is now about 20 posts longer than it should have been, if indeed it should ever have been posted at all, which I doubt.
Goblin Goblin, no need to get offensive here.
I thought you said in a discussion else where that you were a strong minded individual and did not need religion or any form of external belief to lean on, however your posts here are showing huge distress and very childish and immature comments putting those who disagree with you.
And I still think the story is a bit one sided. This is someone who you had a crush on, which you needed to share with all of us (why you choose to put your personal life on display online is your affair, nothing wrong with it I suppose but I would never do that .. but each to his/her own, at least it generates some interesting discussions or rather trading of insults) .. so then you change your mind completely .. over a matter of days and then right afterwards you claim the guy is stalking you, how many examples would you have of someone driving down the street following you, one mor multiple? Who confirmed it (if someone did then obviously someone else can tstify to this behavior and could talk to the guy since that someone must know him, if you think you heard someone I would put that down to paranoya or perhaps wishiful thinking, .. some peple would get a huge kick out of their ex's chasing them around). And at what point has this been threatening in any way and why would you assume it wouldn't fade over time. Givven all the topics you've posted on this I come to the painfully obvious concolusion that you are more excited about this than anything and you find it very flattering, fair enough .. unless you really explain why this seems threatening would I be willing to change my mind about it, not that you care about my "ignorant" opinions.
But where you comppletely lose all respect points in my book is when you start cursing out people, whatever the invokation was .. the post above to SugarBaby is .. by the most generous of standards, ignorant since I bet you know little to nothing about her life, at worst .. subject to harrassment of another zone member. The campaign shoulbe based on issues, not personalities .
So, anyways, I hope you enjoy this and I shall be watching with some interest.
Regarding Manson, well, I read more about his background and idiology and I'm just simpy appauled and find it very sad that someone would actually enjoy this man's philosophy, at least religions are trying to aspire to betterment and peace and living in harmony .. can't see that happen with this guy's approach .. that being said, sure, if you take him simply as a musician he makes good songs and I'll admit to liking many of them .. but his philosophy I severly disagree with .. and since you attack Christians but praise his music and genius well it's just an easy point of comparison which, I shall grant ya, is may be a bit irrelevant so I will come of it for now.
Chers goblin, you are not making many frinds around here, but given our ignorance that's probably all the better for you eh?
cheers
-B
He probably reads the tabloid press as well. The fool.
I lied because I’d signed on to the internet when I said I’d had flu? And that is relevant to this discussion how exactly? It’s the oldest trick in the book, diverting attention away from yourself by trying to put the attention on to someone else. It’s not clever, and it’s not impressive. If you don’t want peoples’ opinions, then you shouldn’t ask for them. If you’re not prepared for the answers you might get, then you shouldn’t’ ask the questions. Not everyone is always going to agree with the way you live your life, not everyone will always sympathise with a particular situation, and sometimes people will call your stories into question and question the validity of them. Especially when a story like this one has so many apparent twists and turns. If it is only nice feedback you are after, maybe you should stop posting your private life on public message boards, after all, if you’d had no responses, I’m sure it would have only been a matter of days before a message appeared asking why no one was interested – we’ve all seen your posts asking why people have shown no interest in certain topics you’ve posted, i.e. wheelchair basket ball etc.
As for your insults directed at me personally, I do not feel the need to defend myself on here, or anywhere else for that matter. What someone thinks of me personally only matters if that person is actually a relevant part of my life, and you, goblin, are most certainly not. Just remember that to most, all you are is a name on a website, nothing more, as are the majority of the rest of us. This is the internet, not the real world, so maybe it's time you started riving a real life instead of one based on what you post on the public message boards.
Well said Sugarbaby I agree with everything you have said there in your post. I'm afraid this behaviour has been very typical of Alex in the past but he never seems to learn that stooping to the level of personal insults is not acceptable and just does not do him any good whatsoever. Frey.
Wildebrew I am certainly not going to explain myself again to amuse you, this is a clear provocation and as this is public forum, which encourages expression and discussion, I see no harm in posting this topic...
Sugarbaby...I didn't expect wine and roses but good advice and discussion not insults, abuse and ignorance...but you seem to be incapable of that,I wonder why you felt the need to be so openly hostile and provocative,the change was so sudden and it proves what I have thought for some time ..you are consumed by bitterness and hatred and I am sick and tired, of being in the firing line...
you provoked me with your attitude and my remark is the result..however if you can bring yourself to apologise for lying and for your recent behaviour, I will retract it..
Oh dear oh dear this gets worse! Goblin, the good advice is way way back in this topic, at about post six or seven I think! You are the one (Yes you!) who continues on this ludicrous tittle-tattle and do you want to know what I think? i think you want to make people think that nobody listens to you, and make people think everyone is unreasonable who has posted to this topic, especially Sugarbaby. but the fact is that Sugarbaby gave you decent advice ages and ages ago in this topic, just as she has done before in situations where I personally wouldn't have given you the time of day and where I would have told you to grow up, snap out of it and act your age rather than like a love-struck teenager. You've got an awful lot to learn Goblin, which is surprising considering your years. I will agree with you on one thing though: it is becoming more and more amusing watching you coming up with even more variations of insults you have previously used.
Please allow me to share with you the reasons why goblin said I lied. He sent me a private message the weekend I had the flue – those of you who know me will know that I did have the flu a few weeks ago. Nothing wrong with that, it was just a message telling me about a documentary I might be interested in watching – given a board post I had made previously. I didn’t reply to the message as I’d only logged on to the site briefly and didn’t really feel like writing mail etc. Then a couple of days later I had a slightly hostile message from goblin asking why I hadn’t replied to his previous message and saying I was not the person he thought I was. And that, it would seem, coupled with the fact that I have dared to disagree with topic posts, is the reasoning behind Goblin’s tyrade. It would be sad if it wasn’t so pathetic.
Retractions of insults are not conditional goblin. You either meant the things you said, or you didn’t, but either way, whether you apologise or not is of no consequence to me. If that’s what you think of me then that is of course your prerogative, and like I said, as you are merely a name on a website, what you think of me is not important. But what I think of you is clearly important to you as you persist in pursuing an apology from me, so, if you would like to point out exactly where I insulted you personally I shall look into the matter and, if I wrongly insulted you, or said something of you which was untrue, I shall apologise.
that is only partly true how can someone ill with the flu and with a toddler to care for,possibly find the energy to participate on a website, much less give her opinion I find that inconceivable..when I had the flu,I as out of it for 2 weeks....
Also your opinon of me immaterial and I can happily live without your apology, as I would scarcely believe a word...I would however like a reason for the sudden shift and downturn in your attitude...do you often turn against people with such blinding speed..
also your citing of the "fact" that I am annoyed because you disagreed with me,is pathetic in the extreme,that really is the equivilent of a drowning man clutching at straws,if we all agreed, what would be the point in having a discussion..
Wow, amazing ... once you turn differences of opinion into personal insults, that's where a discussion breaks down and you come off as a very very inconsistent person, to say the least .. so clutching at straws, yes indeed, someone is straw clutching at this point ..
Well firstly how long I was ill for, and what I was capable of while I was ill is, quite frankly, not your concern. I am not accountable to you for what I do either on, or off of this website, and neither should anyone on here be accountable to anyone else for their actions unless they choose to be. Secondly, as you have not felt able to point out where I have insulted you, I can only take from this that you were unable to find any direct examples of personal insults by me, and I therefore stand by what I said in a previous post, that you read into posts what you want to read into them. As for me “turning on you”, it would be true to say that I have offered you support and advice in the past, both on the message forums, and via private mail. When you posted the topic about having feelings for another individual and didn’t know what to do about it, I sympathised with your problem, and realized that these situations can occur, I even defended you to other users and pointed out that we are all human and that sometimes these things are not easy. However as the story developed, the situation seemed to become more and more implausible. From having these feelings, to calling off the friendship, and then being stalked by the individual in question, to telling his teachers on him … well quite honestly, it sounds like something we might see in an episode of one of our favourite, or not so favourite, soap operas. I think you lost your credibility when you said that you had gone to his professors and they had agreed with you and that action would have been taken. As was pointed out by another user, the professors would not merely take action on the individual concerned on your say so. I therefore do not consider that I have “turned” on anyone, if you post sense, then it is fair that I shall reply with sense, if you post questionable stories, I shall challenge those. As I have said before, if you do not wish to know others’ opinions, don’t ask for them on public message boards.
And now I feel this topic has gone way off topic and has turned too much into a personality clash between two individuals. The public message boards is not the place for such arguments, and I refuse to have any further part in this discussion.
Hello people! Haven't you all intelligent and educated people here realized what Alex/Goblin is all about yet? You keep on reasoning or at least trying to reason with a person who will one day say this then the next day say that. And you all take him so seriously and try to point out things to him. HHHHHEEEEELLLLLOOOOOO! Don't you realize that reasoning with Alex is reasoning with a lunatic?
I agree with star.
When it comes to alex, the drama is just what he feeds off of, and het when other's post of there plites, he claims to think of those who may have it worse.
Alex, I'd say, if you are going to post topics on these boards, at least practice what you preach.